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Made chilli paste over the weekend. Note to self: next time, do not breathe in the air near the blender until blender has been washed. Chilli fumes are Not Fun when there's that much. But there is a decent sized container of chilli paste residing in the fridge, next to the coffee jar of pesto I made several weeks ago. Next to the frozen water bottle that sits in the coldest part of the fridge to remind us never to put anything else there.
Also went up to spend a little time with a pair of new parents. Be proud of me! I didn't make a single snarky, angry, or frustrated comment in response to the 'when this happens to you' and similar comments. Yeah 'when' that happens to me, I will have a rather sick child on my hands. The chances of a child of mine not being:
Also went up to spend a little time with a pair of new parents. Be proud of me! I didn't make a single snarky, angry, or frustrated comment in response to the 'when this happens to you' and similar comments. Yeah 'when' that happens to me, I will have a rather sick child on my hands. The chances of a child of mine not being:
- congenitally lactose intolerant: 50%
- mitochondrially disordered, whether at 30% mutation like me, worse, or less worse: probably 20-30% chance of having no mutated mitchondria at all, but really I have no idea. And the effects of the mutation vary so much - a person with a lesser degree of mutation can have worse symptoms than someone with a greater degree of mutation, particularly when the mutated mitochondria are, for example, concentrated in the heart muscle. And then, if the chances of not inheriting the mutations are so high, why do all my maternal relatives (except my deceased grandfather) manifest minor symptoms?
- overly mobile joints: 50%
- Reflux at various valves: Depends. Possibly entirely due to mitochondrial disorder.
- Chronic infections of various kinds: Entirely due to the way parts of me are constructed. 50%
- Sugar problems: Controllable with diet if it manifests and we catch it early, but the genetic tendency towards diabetes and other sugar problems appears on both sides of my family tree. 50%
- Asthma: 75%
- Functionally infertile (without drugs of any kind) if female: 70-80%
- Allergy to perfume and other artificial fragrances: 50% (there's perfume in baby wipes, and baby powder, and most clothes detergent, and some band-aid glue, and... My pediatrician had to make up a special cream for my nappy rash because I was allergic to all the commercial ones)
- Idiosyncratic reaction to some drugs, especially painkillers and antibiotics: 50%
So, the chances of a child of mine, naturally conceived, sharing no health issues with me or my immediate family that would affect them in the first year of life (everything going well) is 50%*30%*50%*75%*50% = 2.8% (this does not include difficulties #3, 4, 6, 8, & 10 as these difficulties are either unlikely to become apparent during the first year of said childs' life or are reliant upon another difficulty).
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I hope the soft sensitive skin of your nose and internals will recover.
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I planted a yellow-fruited chilli I found at Bunnings in the chilli part of my herb patch some time last year. It is currently fruiting merrily in the warm weather, and one chilli, without seeds, is enough to heat up a dinner for my SO and myself, two very large eaters. They're stashing away in the freezer until I have enough to play with. I was pleasantly surprised that the label matched the fruit, since chillis that you buy in stores are usually ornamental rather than hot.
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My father once planed chilies next to his green-pepper plants. Which was a mistake after few years of replanting in a row. The second year of replanting the same plants (by harvesting seeds) he wound up with mild chilies and hot green peppers. I told he we could easily trace back to which plants were suspect and figure out which ones were the mutants, but he didn't want the trouble of genetic charts to plant his chilies.
As for the "I'll never have a normal child" syndrome, I'm right there with you. Granted I don't have mitochondrial issues that I know of, but I can empathize and nod along with the rest of the list.
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As for the "I'll never have a normal child" syndrome
This is only a problem, for me, when people turn around and do everything but say straight out "You're next". I keep thinking about having a child (like me) who can't digest what she's fed and works her way back up to her birth weight several months later. And it seems that the people around me keep getting married (*grin*) and having kids and just want to share the happiness...
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There are some people I don't bother trying to explain "why not" to, ... it just doesn't fit into their view of the world. "You'll change your mind," they say. "No, no I really won't." I think I'll go to my friends' baby shower with a tee-shirt that says "No, I'm not going to have children."
I keep thinking about having a child (like me) who can't digest what she's fed and works her way back up to her birth weight several months later.
Yeah. ... exactly.
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you don't have to have children yourself to share in the childness goodness.
chilli's are great. just don't confuse them with jelly beans at 3am. doesn't help you get back to sleep.
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Health and genetic issues aside, I quite liked Jeff Vogel's blog of his daughter's life at http://www.ironycentral.com/babymain.html, although most of it is missing since it was accepted for mainstream publication. He has a good sense of humour, which is something you expect from someone who wrote an SF exploration game where one of the events was "For some strange reason, every towel on your spaceship has swiftly and mysteriously disappeared." An omen of doom, if there ever was one.
Half the time I think new parents are so encouraging to other people is that they want other people to suffer as they are. Interesting that no one has ever reccomended that I have children (except, possibly for lunch).
Oh, and your odds for things happening are possibly a little on the high side. Several conditions you describe tend to be reccessive and some are carried by the male line. So don't give up hope!
<ducks thrown object>
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Anything with a 50% chance of a child of mine not getting it is either known to be genetically dominant or behaves in a dominant manner in the family tree (ie one parent has it and the other does not and has no family history of it up to 5 generations back, but one or more children also have it).
And chances are that I can get rid of the mitochondrial stuff from the bloodline by getting a donor egg, replacing the donor's DNA with my own, and then using it for IVF. That way, the child gets the donor's mitochondria, not mine.
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i do agree with my friend here, genetically speaking, odds are not so bad. particularly if you find the right guy.
according to my ex, it's all in how he smells - sans smelly add-ons, which you're allergic to anyways. if the pheremones match, he might be a good immunological option.
isn't that romantic ;)
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From my SO's genetics, we get heart problems, tendency to RSI, and nasty myopia (if I've remembered the correct word for short-sightedness to the point where his focal range starts and ends at around the end of his nose). And congenital male-pattern baldness.
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having contributed to the conception of a child, i can't think of a good reason to try to harangue anyone into following suit. you either do it for your own reasons, or you don't.
but we did prove that we're both quite fertile. hurrah!
[not such a big deal really. 13 year olds are doing it every day.]
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It drives me nuts.
I decided long ago that even if I decided I wanted to bear children, if I wasn't mentally, emotionally, and financially stable enough to take good care of them, I would pass. I'm no longer in primary school, but the decision still makes sense to me.
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not all of us get with the program.
most do, coz they don't even realise they are.
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